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I wanted to say how awesome this is, and thank you for posting about it. I started to write this post earlier, but couldn't figure out a way to word it without offending people. We'll see if I succeed this time or not.
I feel like I am in a pretty unique position with the site. As most of you know, I am not just an "administrator", managing things from far away. I am involved. I read every post. I spend almost all my spare time here, and am immensely proud of what the community has accomplished together.
But every now and then I get hung up on why people are so ungrateful.
Don't get me wrong. I get wonderful messages all the time from users saying how much futures.io (formerly BMT) has helped them, and how thankful they are. And it is these messages that give me the inspiration to be so involved and spend so much of my free time on the site.
But then there are the people that are just ungrateful and sometimes rude. They expect everything to be given to them with no regard for how much time or energy might go into it. They just expect it, and if they don't get it, they even complain.
I know the overwhelming majority of the 26,000 members of the site do not post. That is human nature. I get hundreds of messages "I would post, but I have nothing of value to add". I do not believe it, and try to tell everyone that in fact they are not alone, many feel this way, and that in itself is reason to post so you can all help each other as you go through the same things.
But even though most do not post, the site still has over 5,000 people logging in daily. Yet the overwhelming majority of these people never thank a single post. This bothers me much more than it should. I don't know why, but I almost take it personal.
To me, it's like these people have been invited into my home. I have a really big home that seats 5,000 people at a time. I then put on all kinds of entertainment for their benefit. Each thread on the site is like a "guest speaker" or an artist or author that has been invited into my home to present and talk about a subject that is dear to them. In other words, the people that actually contribute posts to the site -- these are the golden ones in any community, because they create the community. The rest of the attendees are there to watch the presentation and to enjoy or benefit from the entertainment, and that's fine.
But what I don't understand is how people can basically benefit from the education put forward by these "guest speakers" [post writers], and then not even be thankful. It isn't even about whether they agree with what was said. But why can't you be thankful that the other person took the time to try and help you? It seems that people simply expect it, and don't even consider the need to say thank you.
And what really set me off on this was the last webinar. We gave away 17 prizes in the webinar, and one guy made rude remarks because he won a hat instead of a lifetime license. And the majority of the other 17 prize winners haven't pressed the thanks button on the post identifying them as the winner, and many of these 17 people haven't even replied to my private message so I can share their info with NinjaTrader to get them the prizes. I feel like saying "Your welcome, I'm sure.". But I know I am overreacting, so this is all hypothetical
Still, it bothers me in that I don't understand why so many people expect so much to be given to them, and show no appreciation towards others.
My profile indicates I've thanked over 18,000 posts on the site.
You can be sure I thank posts all the time where I do not necessarily agree with the conclusion of the post or the trading methodology of the poster.
But I thank the post because I am thankful that the poster has taken the time and energy to compose it. I believe that in doing so, he has helped himself, as well as the community. So that is worthy of my appreciation towards him.
Then I look at other members profiles, people that have been here for years and read thousands of posts, but never thanked a single one. Keep in mind, every new user to the site receives a couple of emails from me that covers the basics of the site, how to use it, including how to use the thanks button. So I don't feel that it is technical ignorance ("what thanks button?"), but instead a personal choice.
OK, rant done.
Sorry for hijacking your thread
I wish you luck on your continuing gratitude journey. I know you moved a lot of people in the "Millions Made, Now What?" thread when you shared how you helped others through your trading, it speaks volume to the kind of person you are.
I read an article recently that said in 100 years, everyone will still remember Bill Gates due to his philanthropy. But no one will remember Steve Jobs. I think it is interesting, and I mostly agree.
Hello BigMike, I'm one of the people who doesn't have much of value to add. I log in everyday, read a handful of posts and often forget to say "thanks" to the posters. but I want to say that I'm very grateful to what you have done to maintain this wonderful forum. and I'm very grateful to the people who frequently posts here. I'll remember to express my gratitude more often from now on.
Today I am grateful for my futures.io (formerly BMT) friends. There are a lot of them. In no particular order.....
@ZTR for more than I can ever say publicly. He swore me to silence before he passed. My heartfelt thanks for believing in me long before I believed in myself.
@trippenlatin you know why
@Mickey caine for the companionship and your encyclopedic knowledge of the British royalty
@syxforex for never giving up even in the darkest of hours
@Zondor for his incredible programming skills and for showing me what true health can be like. I am in awe of your physical prowess.
@Ryanb for teaching me all I ever wanted to know about head and shoulders patterns but was afraid to ask
@MWinfrey for the incredible five minute oddessy. Its because of you I am on a five min chart
@VinceVirgil for giving me far more credit than I deserve
@tderrick my brother from the recording capital of the world. I sure enjoy our chats
@soumi71 for grace under pressure and for the incredible accent
@Fat Tails for his integrity in suggesting a free solution when I was prepared to pay
@ThatManFromTexas for his humor and constant reminder that simple is better and for a cool little indie
@GaryD for being so darn transparent. Sometimes I feel like I'm looking the mirror.
@Private Banker for being so kind and forthcoming not just with me but many others on the forum
@gtichauer for being the coolest dude I know in Argentina
@tigertrader for not holding back even though I often thought he should
@Deucalion for sharing his charts and his thought process
@researcher247 for sharing his cool tunes with me, it shortens the day and makes everything else a little groovier
@papa15 for keeping it about the main thing
@Gary for never changing his charts and his post about why he trades. Thanks again Gary
@Gabriyele for the unidentified thread, very entertaining
@liquidcci for telling me static profit targets were ok and that he makes all his money with position sizing
Everyone that voted for me in the best thread competition.....
@Big Mike for the forum, for taking a chance with me as a moderator for subjects I knew nothing about and for his encouragement over the last couple of years.
Everyone that's posted in my threads, sent me PMs about various subjects and for everyone whose read my threads, I think I have well over a 100K views over three threads.
I'm sure I've forgotten a few people, its not by choice.....to those of you I've forgotten, please forgive me.
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication, Leonardo da Vinci
Most people chose unhappiness over uncertainty, Tim Ferris
I know it sounds trite but I am thankful for Benjamin Franklin. While there is some dispute about who actually got public libraries going in this country, he is generally credited with making public libraries part of the social fabric of society. I make very liberal (the good meaning of liberal) use of them.
Since I am a voracious reader, free libraries are a godsend for me. I've read around 50 books this year so far and have around 50 more on my reading list plus another 25-30 I'd like to read but am having a hard time finding due to subject material is generally frowned on by library staff. I know where to get these books but it can be some trouble to get them for free.
I can find a lot of them electronically but to be really truthful, I hate reading books on the screen. Articles and shorter type works are ok on the screen but anything longer than 10-15 pages should be on paper, besides, I like the smell of books....
In any event, libraries serve to feed my reading habit for free and for that I am grateful.
Charts later today.
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication, Leonardo da Vinci
Most people chose unhappiness over uncertainty, Tim Ferris
Decided to look at larger gains in terms of the runner based on @tigertrader 's insistence the larger gains is what makes or breaks you.
However, since risk is an issue, I decided to take risk off at 1X and let the rest go to 3x.
I have also been using the techniques in The HeartMath solution to reduce stress while in a trade. The book says that stress comes from unmet expectations. And I have an expectation that trades will fill my profit targets very fast. This very often is NOT the case, therefore I have stress.
The FreezeFrame technique seems to work. I used it yesterday and today with decent results. Of course more practice is needed to really dial it in and see if it works long term or not.
More than likely one and done today. I passed on the second signal after waiting a long time for it. When it came, the risk was to much by half and so I decided to pass on the trade. Its currently working and close to the first target but its taken a long time to get there. We will see. I didn't really like it anyway as this area we are in now is where we sold off from yesterday. I was willing to buy into it earlier but not that close and not with that much risk.
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication, Leonardo da Vinci
Most people chose unhappiness over uncertainty, Tim Ferris
